A Golden Year of Memories
December 1, 2024 | Brian Parman, Director, The Point & Pavilion
by Brian Parman, Director of The Point and Pavilion
As the holiday season draws near, I find myself reflecting on the impact of our actions on the lives of those around us. During this time, so often focused on giving, I’ve realized that one of the most powerful things we can offer is simply our presence and acknowledgment. In a world moving faster than ever, taking the time to genuinely connect with others—to check in, express gratitude, or recognize their unique light—has a transformative effect. It may sound small, but I’ve seen firsthand how these moments can ripple out, uplifting both the giver and the receiver, ultimately raising the collective vibration of the spaces we inhabit.
Recently, I experienced the warmth of being acknowledged in this way, and it left a lasting impression. A dear friend reached out unexpectedly to let me know how much they valued my presence in their life. They recognized the qualities I try to bring into my relationships—compassion, authenticity, and a deep sense of connection. Hearing those words touched a part of me that often goes unspoken, a part that sometimes wonders if anyone truly sees or feels the energy I put into the world. That simple act of acknowledgment was a gift, a reminder that my efforts matter and that my unique light is seen and valued. It was as though their words rekindled my spirit, encouraging me to continue walking this path of connection and care.
Moments like this remind me of Maya Angelou’s words: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” I found this to be true in the most profound way while caring for my mother, who lived with Alzheimer’s. Though she didn’t always recognize me, she felt, without a shadow of a doubt, that I cared deeply for her. Even when words and memories faded, she sensed love and presence in our time together. It taught me that the simple, genuine gift of being there for someone speaks louder than words or memory.
This experience reminds me that the simplest gestures—writing a heartfelt note, making time for a phone call, or just sitting quietly with someone who’s struggling—can be profound gifts. When we take the time to genuinely see someone, we’re not only lifting them up, but we’re also giving ourselves a gift in the process. These interactions create a bond that nourishes both parties, helping each of us feel less alone and more connected to something greater than ourselves.
In this season of giving, I’m reminded that the most meaningful gifts are often those that can’t be bought or wrapped. Taking time to recognize each other’s spirit, to acknowledge the light we each carry, and to express gratitude—these acts create a sense of belonging and love that is truly invaluable. So as I move through this season, I hope to give and receive more of these gifts of acknowledgment, allowing the holiday spirit to flow through these moments of simple, genuine connection.
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