The miracle of forgiveness is the creation of a new being. The old passes away to make room for the new. It does not take away the hurt. It does not deny the injury. You do not have to understand. You do not have to get the story straight nor squeeze every ounce of guilt you can out of it. As far as having any control over you, you just have to be willing to let the diary of what has been written be wiped clean to begin again and to walk into the future in hope and love for your new possibility. As Paul said to the Corinthians, “Real love does not keep score.” The little boy prayed what he thought he had heard other people saying. He said, “Forgive us our trash baskets as we forgive those who put trash in our baskets.” Out of the mouths of babes come insights and words of wisdom much deeper and far greater than they could ever imagine.
If you want to stay alive as long as you live, you need to clean out the trash baskets of what you and others have put in them. There is One who came to take your trash away but you must accept His grace and let Him take away your sins. Then to complete the experience you must be willing to get rid of the trash others put in your basket by being willing to forgive them. Whether they recognize the trash and own it or not is not your responsibility. Having been forgiven, your responsibility is to be willing, and to take the steps you can to help the forgiveness and reconciliation happen. You at least will have decided to clean out the trash, and no longer let it impact nor be a part of your life. You can be free and more alive.